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The Everyday Sexism Project exists to catalogue instances of sexism experienced by women on a day to day basis. They might be serious or minor, outrageously offensive or so niggling and normalised that you don’t even feel able to protest. Say as much or as little as you like, use your real name or a pseudonym – it’s up to you. By sharing your story you’re showing the world that sexism does exist, it is faced by women everyday and it is a valid problem to discuss.

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#59610 H 2014-06-17 13:10
Spent the night with a boy I had a crush on. I woke up to him sexually assaulting me with his hands. I curled up, trying not to cry. I never tell anyone because I know they will never believe me. I know that I will be put on trial. Worst of all, I blame MYSELF for "letting it happen".
I didn't realize that spending the night gave him the right to touch me without my consent, while I was asleep. Because it doesn't.

When I refuse to have sex with a male friend, he accuses me of being a tease.

When I reach high school and participate in track, I am accused of taking steroids because I run faster than the boys. Boys on the team speculate about my sexuality. Some ask if I am a lesbian. I didn't know it was any of their business.

A boy sticks his hands down my pants at a party while I am trying to sleep. I don't know what to do so I just lay there hoping he would stop. He didn't. Eventually I got up and left. I blame myself.
#59609 Mr. Morgan 2014-02-11 16:23
A big, fat horrible drunk idiot was making weird noises and saying 'girls, girls, girls' at a group of four teenagers walking past. I stopped and said 'Don't do that' and looked at him with all the casual disdain I could muster. He walked off, but not before threatening to 'deck me' and calling me a 'yuppie c*nt'...well, I was wearing gloves I suppose.
#59608 NICOLA 2014-02-11 16:09
My (female) teacher declared that 'boys just cant help themselves' in a lesson about sexual bullying. Other conversations about girls as 'teases' in revealing clothing also happened. Whether it was the intention of the speaker or not, when I hear that 'boys cant help themselves' it is like giving young men the message that its ok to do what you want its in your nature, while at the same time it tells girls, you cant expect anything more from boys so get used to it. Please stop telling these untruths it is harmful to us all, boys and girls can both be in control.
#59607 Mary 2014-02-11 15:57
I was with my dad fixing a outdoor lamp on the wall next to MY front door. My dad is a fit eighty year old and I am in my thirties.

He use to be an electrician, so he was partly instructing me, and we were enjoying some father daughter time.

My male next door neighbour, walked pass and observing the scene, blurted out to us "whether we needed any help?" I don't know what was in his head, that he felt the need to say that???
#59606 M 2014-02-11 15:53
When I was thirteen, a boy I had a crush on exposed himself to me. I was so shocked that I didn't even tell anyone for almost six months. He told a friend later that he did it because I wasn't pretty or confident, so he knew he could get away with it.
#59605 Abby 2014-02-11 15:40
Pasted directly from a friend's Facebook wall - seems minor but this kind of everyday smallminded sexist language just pisses me off! "Final Fantasy is really starting to bug me. This series needs to start manning up abit, it's so fruity now it might aswell come with a set of dolls and a make-up kit. IMO Square need to End the girly BS, bring back the original turn-based battles and grow some balls to end the emo nonsense. I for one will not be buying the next chapter, i will wait for the next new story. Disappointed to say the least. Please don't ruin, what is to me, the greatest series in gaming."

Female/girly, etc. = pathetic, apparently.
#59604 Teenage Girl 2014-02-11 15:30
Friend of same gender told me, "You're future husband will DEMAND you have his children, regardless of you not wanting any." Sexism is ingrained in both sexes clearly, she also went on to say, "Motherhood is the best career a woman could wish for, the man provides financial stability and thus you provide the children." I WAS SPEECHLESS. Has my friend just destroyed a century of gender inequality progress within a few mere sentences? I believe so.
#59603 Elizabeth Brentwood 2014-02-11 15:25
At my children's school's Parents' Committee meeting this morning, the Chair referred to all attendees as "ladies" and gave raffle prizes of bath products in frilly bags. I wonder why the fathers don't feel welcome?
#59602 Ashleigh 2014-02-11 14:33
I was walking between the library and my lecture, wearing lots of layers because it was freezing (with only my hands and face on show), with law books in one arm and my football kit in the other. A van full of men drove past slowly and wolf-whistled out of the window at me. I know it's petty but it happens so frequently. It's as if no matter how hard I work to get my law degree, or how hard I've worked to get on to the football team, society always comes back to 'put me back in my place' and tell me that my only worth is my sexual attraction. I am very sad and angry. :(
#59601 anon 2014-02-11 14:30
I was asked in my uni interview how i would manage to care for my 3 children, study and still get my husbands tea on the table for him when he came home from work. I laughed, wonder if I'll get a place?
#59600 Georgia 2014-02-11 13:59
The nerdy magazines that I really enjoy are always on the bottom shelf at the supermarket located next to 'Men's Health' and skin mags. Is it so hard to believe that women are genuinely interested in things other than Celebrity X's diet secrets?
#59599 Lynne Gallagher 2014-02-11 13:54
I don't understand why grown men STILL think it's acceptable to beep and shout comments out of their van at women. I really do not care what you think about my looks. This happened to me yesterday and today. Will it ever cease?? It is embarrassing and unnecessary.

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