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#59628 H 2014-06-17 13:10
Spent the night with a boy I had a crush on. I woke up to him sexually assaulting me with his hands. I curled up, trying not to cry. I never tell anyone because I know they will never believe me. I know that I will be put on trial. Worst of all, I blame MYSELF for "letting it happen".
I didn't realize that spending the night gave him the right to touch me without my consent, while I was asleep. Because it doesn't.

When I refuse to have sex with a male friend, he accuses me of being a tease.

When I reach high school and participate in track, I am accused of taking steroids because I run faster than the boys. Boys on the team speculate about my sexuality. Some ask if I am a lesbian. I didn't know it was any of their business.

A boy sticks his hands down my pants at a party while I am trying to sleep. I don't know what to do so I just lay there hoping he would stop. He didn't. Eventually I got up and left. I blame myself.
#59627 Di & Esther 2014-02-12 08:48
On Lego not marketing to girls and Harry Potter being 'for boys' following R4 show: Not marketing to girls? Harry Potter for boys? Fathers buying for sons? Really?

Harry Potter is for boys now? The fandom might have a few things to say about that
#59626 V 2014-02-12 08:41
Why should I have to feel intimidated walking home alone because men think it's ok to leer and follow?
#59625 Isobel 2014-02-12 08:38
How to make a female character: take male character, add bow and eyelashes
#59624 Ciara 2014-02-12 05:27
Guy from my partner's Chinese medicine class told me I wasn't really a woman because I wasn't 'yin' enough.. because I'm out-going and enjoy doing strong, aggressive, sporty things. I told him he didn't understand the concept clearly, so he said I didn't know what I was talking about.. because I was a woman.
Ironically enough, same guy has only known me since I was pregnant/ still had pregnancy weight. Before, based on the girls he drools over, he would have been singing my praises for being a strong woman.
#59623 Anonymous 2014-02-12 03:58
Today a man rubbed my shoulder and then said to his friend, “we are going to violate her.” And then to me, “open your legs.”
#59622 S 2014-02-12 02:16
At a conference presenter's party, a fellow male presenter I'd only met hours before takes my phone off the table and types a note instructing me to come to follow him up to his room after he leaves the table. He doesn't see that I'm more than just a pretty body to bang. I'm a person who wants to be loved. And now I'm a person who had to be nice about it because he was in a position of power.
#59621 Alison 2014-02-12 01:26
My mum is a senior historian who's known all over the world for her publications, and recently she co-edited the Cambridge History of Australia with another historian, a man who's less known in international circles than she is. The custom when publishing books edited by multiple people is to place the names in alphabetical order according the last name, and in order of seniority. However, when my mum received the initial copy of the book before publication, her name was listed below his, despite her being the senior historian and having a name that came before his in the alphabet. She sent it back insisting that her name be above his- as it should have been initially.
#59620 JW 2014-02-12 00:44
Going to look for a new car, male friend with me. Sales man addressed the friend, even though I asked the questions.
#59619 Ann 2014-02-11 23:16
In school I took DT and the boys would always say I should be doing Home Ec, to make them a sandwich or get back in the kitchen. The funny thing is I was actually getting better grades than them.
#59618 A 2014-02-11 23:13
Jogging and having men make comments to you then shouting slut when you pull a face.
#59617 Issy 2014-02-11 23:06
I am studying gender in my psychology a level, and throughout the past month I have had to educate my class of 11 (two of them boys) that 1) rape is not about attraction, but power, 2) slut shaming is indeed a thing, 3) feminism is not about man hating, but equality of the sexes, to name a FEW issues. Whenever something 'sexist' is mentioned (including scientific theories) I am stared at by at least four members of my class, because I'm 'the feminist'. My female teacher encourages this mocking behaviour and let's my peers 'jest' and 'joke' but I am not allowed to reply as she tells me to 'stop getting into another subject'. On one occasion when I remarked that I would not be the only feminist, my teacher said 'I'm sure most of the girls in this class are feminists'... Feminism is just a female issue then?

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