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The Everyday Sexism Project exists to catalogue instances of sexism experienced by women on a day to day basis. They might be serious or minor, outrageously offensive or so niggling and normalised that you don’t even feel able to protest. Say as much or as little as you like, use your real name or a pseudonym – it’s up to you. By sharing your story you’re showing the world that sexism does exist, it is faced by women everyday and it is a valid problem to discuss.

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#72212 Miss 2015-04-19 21:52
I teach in high schools. On the bus home one afternoon I heard a bunch of lads asking other lads out on the bus on behalf of the girls. After a while they started to call the girls sluts or whores and prostitutes.

I actually ignored it for a good 10 minutes, as I'm agency staff.

But I was disgusted with myself for ignoring it. So I got up, blocked the aisle off the bus at the next stop and educated those boys on how horrible it is to call girls by those names; on how being a sex worker is nothing to be ashamed of and they shouldn't use it as a derogatory insult.

At the first the lads backtracked to say it wasn't them but others who had got off, but they eventually went quiet and didn't talk for the rest of the journey.

The girls came and sat by me and I told them how important it is to stand up to that behavior and to be proud of who you are.
 
 
#72211 Claire 2015-04-19 21:46
Walking past the library today and a very old man growled 'Are you Wet yet?' at me. It stopped me in my tracks but he didn't turn around.
 
 
#72210 Steph 2015-04-19 21:46
At 19 years old I've never had a boyfriend or any type of relationship. It's not something that bothers me as I want to wait for the right person, I don't want to get into a meaningless relationship just for the sake of having a boyfriend. I'm happy waiting however my mum isn't. She's contsantly asking about my love life and any boys I'm into. She'even asked if I was gay. As for her reason I don't have a boyfriend is because I like girls. I've tried countless times to tell her I'm not interested in anyone at the moment but she constantly shames me for it. Telling me its not normal for a girl of my age to have never had a boyfriend. It's almost like I need a boy in my life just to be treated normally. I do get attention from boys however its not the kind of attention you want, but I guess my mum would be thrilled if I bought my disrespectful cat calling boyfriend home as it would give her hope I won't end up a spinster.
I mainly want to travel the world, which my mum pointed out a husband/boyfriend wouldn't tolerate that as he wouldn't want me to be constantly moving. I WOULD RATHER TRAVEL THE WORLD AND BE BY MYSELF THAN BE WITH SOMEONE THAT DOESN'T RESPECT MY DECISONS,
 
 
#72209 Olive 2015-04-19 21:45
I lift weights and have competed in Strongwoman in the past but my mum's family hate it. My mum and my Nan think that it will make look masculine, and intimidate men. My Grandad has indepth conversations with my boyfriend about lifting weights as he used to when he was younger, but apparently it just isn't right for a woman.

They also say the same thing about my tattoo's....
 
 
#72208 Anon 2015-04-19 20:54
Just signed into Facebook & one of the 'suggested pages' that came up in the sidebar was "Dame Helen Mirren is ageing beautifully". What the hell does that matter?! Surely we should be concentrating on her acting talents, not her looks & whether or not she's 'ageing well'. I certainly couldn't give a monkey's! I don't recall ever seeing a page like that dedicated to how well any male celebrities are ageing. It makes me quite cross that women are judged by their appearance so much.

Also, there is a series of shows on the CI (Crime & Investigation) channel about 'bunny boilers' & 'women on the edge'- shows like Deadly Women & Snapped: Women Who Kill. I don't condone the things that these women have done in the slightest (indeed, I find some of the stories featured on these programmes very upsetting), but I do get annoyed about the fact that women are portrayed in the media as being spiteful & vindictive & don't take rejection well to the point that they take murderous revenge (not helped by that old adage 'hell hath no fury like a woman scorned'), while discounting the fact that there are a lot of women who are killed by their male partners.
 
 
#72207 Alex W 2015-04-19 19:43
Liverpool St station on Friday at 6.30pm, was accosted by 2 men. One draped himself over me from behind, grabbing my arms. Before I could protest, he shouted "you have big tits!"

I immediately confronted him, saying "don't talk to me like that! Treat me with respect!" before walking off.

I then stood outside the station, waiting for a friend, when the man who'd grabbed me came right in my face, apologising, and holding his hand out to shake, which I reluctantly did. I thanked him for apologising, and asked him to leave. As soon as I'd apologised, he said "you have huge tits!" I told him to stop, leave me alone. He kept repeating that I had big tits, that I looked great, and why was I getting upset? He said it was a compliment and I should be happy. I got more frustrated, and asked him to leave as he was ruining my evening. The man's friend then approached, saying that I should chill out because I'd had an apology. I explained that I appreciated the apology, but his friend was still upsetting me and making personal comments, and wouldn't leave me alone.

I asked them to go their way and I go mine, but they didn't leave. They kept saying it was a compliment, and I should be flattered. Why shouldn't he say I have huge tits when I obviously do?

I then turned around to find one of the men with his phone pointed at me, saying " go on, get a picture of her with her big tits!"

When he saw my face, he laughed and said "sorry, sorry, just banter!"

At that point I had to leave, running away down another street and crying it out - a mixture of shock, embarrassment and anger.

It's been a couple of days now, and I thought the emotions from this incident had settled, but writing it all down now has just brought them to the surface again.
 
 
#72206 Anon 2015-04-19 19:33
One time, I rode in a taxi cab to Sixth Form College. It was a one off trip: I usually took the bus or one of my parents would offer to drive me in.
I forget the exact reason why I had to go that day by cab. I guess it was because my classes started a lot later that day: there was no bus service at that time and my parents were too ill to drive me.

The male cabbie asked if I was going to meet my boyfriend later. I politely told him that was very busy with studying and did not have a boyfriend. The cabbie seemed shocked at this and pulled a disgusted face in the rear view mirror. He did not ask me what subjects I was studying and how I was dealing with my courses. When I told him that I was studying Sciences and Maths he seemed surprised, then he ignored me. When he found out where I was studying he said: "That's where clever people go innit? You meeting up with your boyfriend later?"

Again, I politely told him that I did not have a boyfriend.
 
 
#72205 Alex W 2015-04-19 19:33
My dad reprimanded me for not sending my cousin a birthday card. I have done so in the past, and yet there is no expectation on my two brothers to do the same.
Furthermore, I keep strong, regular contact with my grandparents, whilst my brothers are very slack. However, on the occasion they do make the effort, they are highly praised for it.
 
 
#72204 DT 2015-04-19 19:15
Short hair and I sometime put up makeup to feel myself better, it was ok until people started requesting that I put on lipstick, spesificly the red one. It ended up me offering a deal to these guys who requested this, if you put it on so will I.
 
 
#72203 L 2015-04-19 19:11
My school still forbids girls to wear trousers for no other reason that is a catholic institution and this is therefore seen as the correct,'womanly' way to dress. We contested this rule for numerous reasons: 1. It removes the opportunity for girls to play any lunch time sport that 'the boys' did frequently, such as football of rounders, or any form of running around or having fun(which we had all,sporty as we were, enjoyed doing throughout primary school- this also encouraged another issue as because girls had nothing else to do rather than sit around watching the boys play sport, they resorted to bitching about each other's weight, hair, personality ect, further encouraging stereotypes and literally demoting out only purpose to 'looking pretty for the boys.' 2. During winter we were freezing and whilst the joys were allowed the option of warm, comfortable trousers,girls had a constant battle with the wind and trying to retain their modesty. Finally, it is a horrible feeling knowing that the headmaster was unnecessarily forbidding the girls from wearing trousers for no actual reason, just because it was, 'traditional' and he could. This is such a frustrating feeling knowing that you are being forced to fit into the ridiculous stereotype of, 'femininity' and were forbidden to be young and liberated.
 
 
#72202 ... 2015-04-19 17:45
My dad just told me that when he was dating mum he took her to wales and this man can up behind them and obviously got their genders wrong (mum had short hair and dad had long hair that he tied up in a ponytail) and pinched dad's bum. Dad turned around and gave him the sleaziest smile he could and the man was shocked.

I'm laughing so hard right now
 
 
#72201 K 2015-04-19 15:37
I recently went to a gift shop. It had several racks of 'name plaques'. Some were for hanging in your garden shed, and the ones with women's names on them said, for example, 'Linda's garden, welcome all friends' and the ones with men's names said 'Malcolm's garden, genius at work'. So women have gardens to look pretty for entertaining, whereas men actually do and are good at gardening.
Then there were some to hang in your kitchen. No men's names there. Only women use the kitchen, apparently.
For children's named things, girls got pink and princessy, boys got blue.
Don't even get me started on those sexist 'retro' slogan plaques...
 
 
#72200 Anon 2015-04-19 15:14
If boys in general are supposed to be more adept at Mathematics than girls, could someone please explain why several boys in my GCSE Maths class, sitting on my table tried to copy the answers out of my exercise book?

Why did some of them beg me to explain trigonometry to them?

It was very silly of me to get all of those questions correct, given that I supposedly had such a fragile and unsystematic female brain (according to some Psychologists).
 
 
#72199 Anon 2015-04-19 15:04
If women are better at empathising than systemising, could someone please explain why I was taught a Module of Advanced Mathematics by a woman? Why did she teach complex topics including differential equations in Advanced Mathematics?

I have been told by Psychologists that systemisers who are adept at Mathematics have less empathy.
If that is the case, then why was my highly systematic Maths teacher so nice to me and so technically adept?
I have been told that the more someone empathises, the less they systemise.

If that were case, then why did my Advanced Mathematics teacher, patiently and kindly help me trouble-shoot my Maths assignments?
Why was she so helpful in helping me achieve an A grade on the Maths Module she taught? Why did she always smile and be pleasant to the class before writing a dazzling Mathematical proof on the board?

She had a young child to care for. She did not lack empathy in fact she was one of the most understanding people I have met. If she was so nice and caring, then why was she able to lucidly explain complex technical Maths topics?

Why can't some women be high empathisers and systemisers?

One of my A-Level Mathematics teachers was a caring empathiser and a brilliant systemiser.

If women supposedly can't systemise, then why do some women study and complete Degree courses in Mathematics?
Why do some women qualify teach High Level Mathematics if they are supposedly so incapable of logical and rational thought?

My Maths teacher was a real person and not a mythical unicorn.
She wasn't a systemising, socially dysfunctional man: she was a woman.

She enjoyed Mathematics, cared for her family and helped her students.
 
 
#72198 B 2015-04-19 14:22
I'm leaving school in just under 6 weeks time and a frequent conversation point is our plans for the future. Believing they mean academically (I come from an academic background) I talk of how I aspire to attend the University of Cambridge after college and then go on to work for the Government.

Not only do people jeer about how a woman could never run the country, they question how I could ever balance a high-pressure career around having a family. When I respond by saying I currently have no desire to have children, they appear deeply shocked.

One one occasion I was told "No one will ever love you if you're not willing to submit to a man and have his children. You're going to die a lonely spinster."

For a moment I believed him, and considered scrapping my ambitions for the sake of other people's approval. That was a low point.
 

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