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#65832 Anon 2014-07-11 17:57
In one lesson at school today,I heard more than 10 rape jokes,mostly by the boys.I am 13 years old.If that's what they're like aged 13,I am truly worried at what they will be like in they are older.Rape culture sickens me.Also,in the 4 years I have had sex education at school,not one lesson talked about consent...
#65831 bec 2014-07-03 02:28
Sexism has been a part of everyday life for me since adolescence. Here are just a few of my experiences:

At a party I had drunk too much and went with my female friend to a quiet place to rest. A guy walked into the room, lifted my dress and penetrated me with his fingers. I was very drunk and tried to move away but he followed. My friend was able to push him away thankfully and stop it going further. I did not report this and at the time did not think it was rape, my idea of rape was a predatory stranger forcing sex rather than a friend of a friend not obtaining full consent. I was 15, and shockingly I still feel as though I would be blamed for putting myself in that situation even though that violation was completely uncalled for.

On another occasion I was plied with alcohol until I was almost passed out and then taken into a room. I was a virgin and this was extremely upsetting, I cried throughout. I was only 13 and the guy 18, I had no idea of the danger I was in because I was with friends. No one stopped it even though I was crying loudly. I was put on the back of his mates bicycle and ridden home with blood dripping down my legs when I was sober enough.

Another occasion when walking to school an old man (around 70) tried to call me into the bushes and told me he knew my brother. He told me to come back again at 6pm but I instead told my mum. He watched me walk to and from school sporadically for a few weeks but I never saw him again after that.

When I was about 20 I was walking along a popular walking path and a man was sitting in his car masturbating, within clear view of all the joggers/walkers. I was disgusted and took his number plate but never reported it regretfully.

Around the same age my drink was spiked and I lost all recollection of the evening despite only having 2 drinks. After going to the hospital the next day I was told nothing could be done, they didn't even have a brochure or a nurse that could speak to me about what I could do. At this age I was much more aware of my rights to my own body and wanted to report this behaviour. I attempted twice to report it to the police but both times I was put through to numerous departments and hung up on.

None of this behaviour prepared me for my husband, whom I married and had a child with at 23 & 24 respectfully. Once I was perceived as his possession he proceeded to emotionally abuse me by putting me down on a daily basis, sabotaged my friendships where he could, isolated me from my family in a small town, all the while physically abusing me. It was a very confusing and difficult thing for me to understand because I had married this man, had children with him, and had loved him.

I have become a much stronger woman after these experiences in life, particularly my marriage. Despite these instances, I don't feel that all men are predatory or sexist, but the men that aren't need to stand up and advocate for a woman's right to be respected and not treated as an object of mens desires or possession. This behaviour is much more endemic than we like to admit and my story is sadly not unusual. In this shortened snippet of my life I may have painted a picture of a rebellious troubled teen but I was a normal well adjusted girl experimenting with alcohol, just like my male friends - none of whom were ever exposed to the threat of rape because of having one too many drinks. If ever they were I would never have blamed them for putting themselves in that situation. This kind of abuse can happen to anyone and is never the victims fault - women also need to understand this.
#65830 Colleen 2014-05-30 05:11
I was passed out drunk at a party last year and a boy there took advantage of me and ended up raping me. At school, everyone was making jokes about me and calling me a slut because "it was my fault i was so drunk. We need to teach men not to rape and stop blaming the victim.
#65829 Marie 2014-05-28 23:28
Parking in front of my house, the taximan offered me a free ride in exchange for a 'quick peek at my tits'. I wish I could say it was the first time I had faced such request...
#65828 Lena 2014-05-28 23:24
I'm a medical student and last year I was part a group composed of 5 students performing a physical examination on a patient as part of an active learning activity. I was the only woman on the group, the other students were all men. That day I was reminded of the small ways in which sexism still plays a huge role in our lives, when our attending physician called all the male students in my group "doctor" while he called me "miss".
#65827 Carlen 2014-05-28 22:51
I was standing near the front of a small crowd checking out a shitty DJ in an small underground place down the street from my loft. Just walked in to check it for two minutes, standing quietly. Someone from behind pulls my hips into their groin area. I elbow them in the stomach and whip around to look them in the eye. They looked surprised and I shook my head slowly while staring him down. The music was too loud to say anything. He looked away and pretended not to see me. I immediately left.
#65826 Julia 2014-05-28 22:50
I'm a female band leader, and my band mate (whom I technically employ) has on several occasions insisted on counting tips and change I give to waiters and merch buyers on tour, because, as he told me with his mouth, aloud, in real life "girls can't do math".
#65825 Madeline 2014-05-28 22:07
There were three of us girls and three guys standing together. A guy comes up to the group, puts his arms only around the three girls and says "So which one of you is good at ironing?"
#65824 Laura, via twitter 2014-05-28 22:01
I was on a hen do last night a man lifted my skirt up on the dancefloor.
#65823 J, via twitter 2014-05-28 21:59
A male classmate humped me while I waited for coffee because it's 'funny'. I'm too ashamed to tell my boyfriend.
#65822 Clair, via twitter 2014-05-28 21:56
Years ago when a firefighter an officer said to colleague "Give Clair the dustpan and brush to clean up. She's the woman"
#65821 Allie, via twitter 2014-05-28 21:55
Went clubbing with friends. We wanted to get fresh air, random guy tried to pull me back asking "why are you leaving, baby?"
#65820 Hannah, via twitter 2014-05-28 21:50
Was wearing a skirt yesterday as i walked past two boys one of them tried to touch my leg and spit on me because i didnt let him.
#65819 V, via twitter 2014-05-28 21:49
Having your behind grabbed in a club you're working at and a female staff member resignedly saying "it happens".

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