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#71313 B 2015-04-19 14:22
I'm leaving school in just under 6 weeks time and a frequent conversation point is our plans for the future. Believing they mean academically (I come from an academic background) I talk of how I aspire to attend the University of Cambridge after college and then go on to work for the Government.

Not only do people jeer about how a woman could never run the country, they question how I could ever balance a high-pressure career around having a family. When I respond by saying I currently have no desire to have children, they appear deeply shocked.

One one occasion I was told "No one will ever love you if you're not willing to submit to a man and have his children. You're going to die a lonely spinster."

For a moment I believed him, and considered scrapping my ambitions for the sake of other people's approval. That was a low point.
#71312 Bryony 2015-04-19 14:02
Last summer I went on a school trip with my drama class to London. One evening after we had been to see a West End show I went back to a friends room to watch TV for a while. I sat next to a boy from my class on the floor and frequently throughout the evening he would grope my bum and breasts when no one was watching (He had done this on another school trip the year before). It made me feel very uncomfortable but I tried to ignore it. When I asked him about it the following morning he denied that anything had happened and that I was just "looking for attention". Not only this, but I found out once we returned to school that he had groped several other girls in my year.
I was 14 at the time.
#71311 trainer1 2015-04-19 13:14
At the start of 2015, I was offered a promotion to Director level within the English As a Foreign language field. It meant a move to the Middle East but, in my fifties, as a single, career-orientated woman, I saw no disadvantages, bar hot weather and new surroundings. I expected congratulations, a little curiosity and offers of CVs from colleagues. The response was the opposites: so negative I couldn't believe it. If I'd said "North Korea", I could've understood, but the Middle East (and not Saudi Arabia)....? "urghh! Will you have to wear a veil/what about those men stripping you with their eyes(!!!!???)/you'll boil to death/you'll hate it" I was so upset, and only bolstered by my parents' enthusiasm..... And they're in their eighties!

So, what's this to do with sexism? IF I HAD BEEN MALE, there would have been back slaps, high fives, boozy farewells, congratulation cards, offers of CVs. I reAlised..... "Ah, if I was a man and seeking promotion... That's OK..... But a woman.... In the Middle East? What's her motive?" Having a career, maybe? And being good at my job?
#71310 Anon 2015-04-19 13:14
When I went to Barcelona last summer, I had a caricature drawn of me. They guy drawing it asked me what I liked to do in my spare time so he could include it in the picture and I said I liked to read. He drew a picture of me with shopping bags instead of books.
#71309 anonimous 2015-04-19 13:02
I am 12 years old and I was out one day after school playing football with a few of my friends and one boy said to me "hey your pretty good at football for a girl." I didn't feel I could get angry at him because he is my friend and he didn't even realise there was anything wrong with what he had said. It all just drives me crazy!
#71308 Natalia 2015-04-19 12:37
I'm 17 and I have 2 tattoos. My brother is 28 and he has 18 tattoos. We visited our grandma the other day and when she saw his tattoos she said "I really like how they look on you." when she saw mine, she said "What are you going to do if the day you get married your husband doesn't like them? I think you need to start saving money for when you have to revome them"
I love my grandma and I know she was raised that way and how it isn't her fault, but this is the perfect example of why we need feminism. We need to teach this generation and also the past one that women have rights. I know it may sound odd, but if we, as women, can't have something as simple as a tattoo without having people questioning us abouy wether a man will like it on us or not, then what can we expect when it comes to something bigger, like having the same salary?
#71307 P 2015-04-19 12:35
When I was 14, I was asked by a male acquaintance from another school why I didn't wear make - up, do my hair better and shorten my skirt length (in summary dress more provocatively) so that I could get guys' attention and get a boyfriend. I wasn't aware that I HAD to have a boyfriend and that to do so I had to dress in a way that makes me feel uncomfortable.
#71306 LJ 2015-04-19 12:01
Too many experiences to count. But the most recent that comes to mind involves a coworker who likes to joke about being sexist, pretending he is not when, of course, he really is.

Most recently I was having a discussion with him about netflix and I mentioned that I watched it on my xbox. He said, "I always find it funny when girls say they have an xbox.

I asked, why? "Cause you don't expect them to like gaming."

He then proceeded to tell me a story about how a woman he used to date was into gaming, but, and he said, "once we played a game on the xbox and she beat me, and as soon as I found out she was better than me at it I dumped her. Cause I can't have that, can I?"
#71305 Helen 2015-04-19 10:42
Was once called a "flat-chested bitch" by some random teenage boys whilst I was waiting for a bus alone with my headphones in.
#71304 Amber 2015-04-19 10:19
If "men are good at reading maps and women ask for directions", please explain why my Mum is adept at map reading while my Dad has a poor sense of direction?

Why is it always my Dad who begs my mother to stop and ask someone for directions after he drove the wrong way/told my Mum to go the wrong way?

How come my Mum was an avid Geography student and loves to read maps? Why does my Dad get so disorientated? Why does my Dad struggle to read maps? Why did my Dad frequently get lost and my Mum didn't?

Can a qualified brain scientist explain this for me please?

What about all of the men with spatial orientation learning disabilities: can they read maps better than women?
#71303 J 2015-04-19 09:05
I will soon be finishing school and the main question I am asked is "So what do you want to be when you leave school?", which is a normal question imposed on people my age. However some of the follow up questions and statements are quite sexist for example "make sure you choose a career that is easy when you have children". Firstly why is it assumed that I want children and secondly why are you implying that one day I will have to choose between having a family and a career when my male counterparts are never told anything remotely like this. When I respond "I'm not sure what I want to be or study at university" people respond with "how about a teacher or a nurse?" when my male friends get suggestions like "what about an engineer or a lawyer". These expectations on what profession my female and male friends want to be are sad, it marginalises my guy friend who wants to be a nurse and my female friend who wants to be a forensic scientist. I never really thought sexism was so apparent in our modern day liberated society until I started to become a young adult.
#71302 expat 2015-04-19 08:07
I am part of a International Expat Community Fabebook group, where everyone can share things about the country or buy/sell stuff... This member post an article and ask if someone can help and explain it properly. The article is all about serius issue like sex, moral prejudies, marriage, child married. First the article title is not well pick, as it only says 99% of people has sex before marriege. So people without reading are already laughing and making jokes, when the hole article is about Gender Equality, man are the ones laughing about it. Why? Because child marriage mostly take part in girls, because girls get pregnat, not boys so then the traditional believes says they have to get married if not that girl will never find a husban to take care of her. SEX placer is equal for any gender and it seems moral prejudies are always based in pointing a girl as "dirty".
#71301 Mattie 2015-04-19 04:26
I took a gap year before uni and got a job in a large jewellery store. Despite being young I had 4 years' experience in jewellery, and thought I was damn good at that job. After my first month I was on top of the sales table.

Yet I slowly started becoming more and more uncomfortable there. The store manager pulled me aside after my first day and told me that my sales would improve if I undid a few buttons on my shirt. When a customer spilled a drink on the floor, he specifically sought me out to clean it up, since mopping is 'not a man's job'. Then I was selling a ring to a man when a male colleague came and took over my sale without asking, since it needed a 'man's opinion'.

About 3 months into the job, I had a flare-up of an old ankle injury and needed to wear a brace. When I was called in for a routine job evaluation, I was told that I needed to put on some heels to look more 'presentable' and 'take off the black ankle thing'. No mention of my excellent sales record, punctuality, or rapport with the customers – all comments were about my appearance. When I explained that I couldn't wear heels and had to wear the brace because of an injury, my manager gave me a stern look and told me that 'we like the women to wear heels in this store' and the brace was 'hideous'.

I stuck with the job since I needed the money, but I'm much more aware of my rights now. No one should be able to treat you like that in the workplace.
#71300 Ellie 2015-04-19 04:08
I love sports. I've played football since I was a little kid, attend most Chelsea games, follow American football and basketball and almost obsessively keep up with stats and scores. Yet I'm never included in conversations about the weekend's game. If I dare to offer my opinion about how a match went I get either blank stares or laughs from my male colleagues or friends. If I'm at a bar and go up to check the match scores on the telly I get accused of trying to make myself attractive to the male fans. If I mention that I like football I frequently get quizzed about random facts so that men can check if I'm actually a fan, and not just pretending to be one for attention.

How many female football fans are there in the UK? Millions. So why can't I just be left to enjoy my sport in peace?
#71299 Julia 2015-04-19 01:56
I go to a community college in the US. I was blessed with a curvy figure, and I enjoy wearing cute but classy looking clothes. At my school, a lot of guys kept on commenting on how my butt was big and I had great boobs. And at first I just laughed it off. Now it's all they talk about when I'm around. One of them keeps on saying kind of gross things about he wants to have sex with me. He also will just surprise "tickle" me, even after I tell him not to. He always asks me to hug him, and when I refuse, he "jokingly" calls me rude.

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