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#59617 H 2014-06-17 13:10
Spent the night with a boy I had a crush on. I woke up to him sexually assaulting me with his hands. I curled up, trying not to cry. I never tell anyone because I know they will never believe me. I know that I will be put on trial. Worst of all, I blame MYSELF for "letting it happen".
I didn't realize that spending the night gave him the right to touch me without my consent, while I was asleep. Because it doesn't.

When I refuse to have sex with a male friend, he accuses me of being a tease.

When I reach high school and participate in track, I am accused of taking steroids because I run faster than the boys. Boys on the team speculate about my sexuality. Some ask if I am a lesbian. I didn't know it was any of their business.

A boy sticks his hands down my pants at a party while I am trying to sleep. I don't know what to do so I just lay there hoping he would stop. He didn't. Eventually I got up and left. I blame myself.
#59616 Arian 2014-02-11 22:55
A few weeks ago I was leaving my flat block and two men started saying stuff like "oh hey babe, you're fine, want to suck my cock yeah?" Etc. I had to walk straight passed them and was terrified.
#59615 Elisha 2014-02-11 22:51
This is my first time so I'm posting as many as I can remember.

Age 15, wolf whistled at by a guy in his 70s & had my leg groped by a boy in school. Plus the school had a rule that in P.E. Boys could wear shorts/ trousers and a shirt/ jumper but girls could ONLY wear a short skort and shirt.

Later, when clubbing a guy grabbed me by the arm and pulled me to me in hard to kiss him, I said no and me and my friend moved to a different part of the club. This guy then followed us around the club grabbing us until I gripped him by the throat and shouted "no means no! Fuck off!".

Frequently told that I either don't respect my body, am a slut/ easy, am teasing men or inviting sexual harassment by wearing skimpy clothing.

Often mocked for being feminist and if I have something rational to say it's often blamed on PMS. And I am constantly witness to sexist, homophobic, racist, transphobic, ableist etc. remarks from people and when I call them out on it I 'can't take a joke' or I'm being 'over sensitive'.

Overall I feel I'm talked down to by men (and women), expected to cook and clean and have babies but in my relationship I go to Unj and my partner doesn't work so he does the majority of the housework. Plus I'm always discredited by being called hormonal, oversensiitive, overreacting, Hysterical, crazy, bitchy, fussy, that I am just looking for something to complain about, that I've had feminism crammed down my throat, that I'm too pompous and too serious.

I consider myself to be clever-ish and fairly self-aware but I still feel pressure to wear make up everyday, I worry about my weight even though I've been told I've got perfect BMI and wear size 10. I even try to avoid harmful materials like fashion magazines that promote this thinking but it still seeps through. It worries me that I'm aware of these thoughts and can usually fight them off and still get them, so what about those girls who aren't aware that these messages are drummed into us by society?

Ooh and lastly apparently I'm not allowed to burp because I'm female :S
#59614 Julia 2014-02-11 22:38
I was on a bus on the way home and a guy thought it would be completely appropriate to show me a picture of a statue penis and add the comment "you like a bit of cock don't you" which made me slightly uncomfortable. I was so glad when he got off because I didn't really want to talk to him for another 30 minutes.
#59613 B 2014-02-11 21:52
In PE class (mixed sex class), last year, the male teacher would always instruct the whole class on what to do and then repeat it to the girls 'who need instructions to be repeated in order for them to understand. The same teacher is also convinced that women can not play sport at all despite our schools very successful FEMALE sports teams.
#59612 Layla 2014-02-11 21:27
Like when...
-my male trainee and junior to me is treated like the manager
-when a guy walks up to me in a club and grabs my breasts
- when older men call me sweetheart
#59611 Becky 2014-02-11 21:20
Crossing the road a guy leaned into me and whispered inappropriate remarks while his friends looked on laughing. I initially walked away humiliated, stopped... turned back, realising i had nothing to be embarrassed for. I shouted at the top of my lungs so all the commuters could her that his remarks were disgusting and he was never to speak to me or anyone like that ever again. His friends and his smiled vanished. Mine found its way to the surface :)
#59610 Katherine 2014-02-11 16:28
When I was fourteen, I was standing with the rest of my school for the annual photo. As we were waiting for everyone else to get on the bleachers(?), I felt a jabbing sensation in my lower back, and was told "Hey Kathy, that's my penis." At this school, I had also been propositioned, grabbed, and occasionally asked if I watched porn.

About a week ago, I was walking home from sixth form when a car passed me by and the occupants shouted something at me - I don't know what it was, but I'm pretty sure it wasn't about the weather. I told my mum about it, and she said I should probably ignore them so they wouldn't feel like they'd won. She wasn't being sexist - she'd had a similiar thing happen to her repeatedly when she was a teenager, and the one time she'd gone up to them and told them what she thought of them, they'd laughed and carried on. As she told me this, I was watching my little sister play outside with her friends, and I hope neither she nor my brother, who is teased for not liking football, have to go through that.
#59609 Mr. Morgan 2014-02-11 16:23
A big, fat horrible drunk idiot was making weird noises and saying 'girls, girls, girls' at a group of four teenagers walking past. I stopped and said 'Don't do that' and looked at him with all the casual disdain I could muster. He walked off, but not before threatening to 'deck me' and calling me a 'yuppie c*nt'...well, I was wearing gloves I suppose.
#59608 NICOLA 2014-02-11 16:09
My (female) teacher declared that 'boys just cant help themselves' in a lesson about sexual bullying. Other conversations about girls as 'teases' in revealing clothing also happened. Whether it was the intention of the speaker or not, when I hear that 'boys cant help themselves' it is like giving young men the message that its ok to do what you want its in your nature, while at the same time it tells girls, you cant expect anything more from boys so get used to it. Please stop telling these untruths it is harmful to us all, boys and girls can both be in control.
#59607 Mary 2014-02-11 15:57
I was with my dad fixing a outdoor lamp on the wall next to MY front door. My dad is a fit eighty year old and I am in my thirties.

He use to be an electrician, so he was partly instructing me, and we were enjoying some father daughter time.

My male next door neighbour, walked pass and observing the scene, blurted out to us "whether we needed any help?" I don't know what was in his head, that he felt the need to say that???
#59606 M 2014-02-11 15:53
When I was thirteen, a boy I had a crush on exposed himself to me. I was so shocked that I didn't even tell anyone for almost six months. He told a friend later that he did it because I wasn't pretty or confident, so he knew he could get away with it.

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