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The Everyday Sexism Project exists to catalogue instances of sexism experienced by women on a day to day basis. They might be serious or minor, outrageously offensive or so niggling and normalised that you don’t even feel able to protest. Say as much or as little as you like, use your real name or a pseudonym – it’s up to you. By sharing your story you’re showing the world that sexism does exist, it is faced by women everyday and it is a valid problem to discuss.

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#71033 Anna 2015-04-17 00:47
I am in a class with primarily boys (there are only 2 girls including myself) and whenever I bring up a women's issue or point out minor or even blatant sexism that happens in class I'm told I'm being 'sensitive' or 'ridiculous'. I mean it's pretty hard to be yelled at by 20 football players that your status as women is unimportant.
#71032 Yesha 2015-04-17 00:43
I live in a place where:
I must wake up early because I am Woman. Yet, it is okay for my brother to wake up very late because he is Man.
I must do all the domestic work because I am Woman. My brother must not do them because he is man.
I must stay at home after 6 pm because I am woman. Yet, it is free for my brother to go everytime he wishes.
Do all of them or I will be called bitch.
#71031 P 2015-04-17 00:34
A few weeks ago I was working at this partyhall and this guy was drunk, so I decided to help him outside and get him to go home. Somehow he saw this as an invitation to put his hand between my legs at my crotch and lift me like that. It sounds ridiculous but this was literally what he did. He carried me outside with just that hand there while lifting me high up in the air. I had no way to stop him. Thankfully he had no bad intentions, but it was a violation of my rights and private place anyway. Never felt so helpless and objectified in my life.
#71030 alexis 2015-04-17 00:28
When I was 13 I played in an indoor soccer league with boys. I've always been pretty short and one game the guys were towering over me. They weren't better than me though, I was still competive because I was quick and had foot skills. I wanted a fair game. Instead, the referee felt 'bad' for me because I was a girl. I got multiple fouls even when the other players didnt foul me, the referee found it funny. I cried after that game.
#71029 Hope 2015-04-17 00:27
I'm from India.
My parents recently separated and as my mom doesn't work, she is moved in with her in-laws. I (plan to) live with my dad.
A family member - When you're DONE with developing your career you can get married or move in with your mom...
#71028 Christina 2015-04-17 00:25
My trombone teacher often tells me stories about other musicians he has worked with. He has never discussed the appearance of his male colleagues but never forgets to tell me how attractive a female colleague is. He always discusses a women's appearance before her talent. He told me that he was excited when a female trombone player was hired in his band because it would be nice to have some "eye candy". I have told my parents about this and they don't think it is a problem. It is a problem.
#71027 Angie 2015-04-17 00:12
Had a peeping Tom for about a year watch me and leave porn videos on my doorstep. Now I don't feel safe without my curtains drawn.
#71026 Ophelia 2015-04-17 00:11
My relative was in a play, so I got to mingle with the cast members at the theatre bar afterwards.

One of the (older, male) actors asked me quite specifically what I thought of the writing, so I told him honestly, in detail, that I thought it was flat and lacked any meaningful conflict. His demeanour changed, then he turned to patronisingly 'splaining to me why my opinion was wrong.

Why ask me for an opinion you don't actually want to hear? And why even be an actor if you think I'm not going to see through a fake, condescending smile?

One of the other male actors gave me a glance which made me think he might have been casually thinking about my underwear, too. Ugh.

The female cast members were all utterly lovely, though, incidentally. It was just the men with their tediously fragile egos that I found unpleasant.
#71025 Jade 2015-04-16 23:59
I left my house already running late to meet friends, as I walked past a really well built man who stood over a foot taller than me he started to comment on my legs and clothes. I ignored him and he started to get aggressive, asked me if I reply to people when I'm being spoken to and started following me and asking where I was going.
Despite myself I started to feel scared but I continued to walk confidently down my block of terraced houses and he soon turned back the way he was going. At this point I realised that I'd forgotten something and needed to go back to my house. He was walking slower than he had done before so I had to slow down too, he hadn't gone by the time I got to my house so I chose to walk past it because I didn't want him to know where I lived in case he came back.
Once he'd gone I doubled back to my house and got what it was that I'd forgotten, I was nervous on my route across town where my body was commented on by three more men before I got to my destination extremely late because of that first man and extremely unhappy because of all four of them.
This happens every time I dare to be so bold as to expect to be able to walk somewhere without a male chaperone.
#71024 Alex 2015-04-16 23:55
I'm a male and openly gay. I've had many incidents of sexism related to women.

My own mother and father said that they wanted a girl, but instead had me.

My siblings joke sometimes in gettogethers that there's 3 women and 3 men and include me as a woman, or saying that I'm "basically a woman". Never have I once wanted to become a woman or expressed any desire to dress or act as a woman.
#71023 Casey 2015-04-16 23:52
As a younger girl playing softball, our coach (a woman) would constantly tell us not to throw "like a girl." This always confused me, but I never said anything about it. In hindsight, I think this may have contributed to my desire to be considered a tomboy--because if I was just seen as a normal girl, I assumed I would be underestimated. It's twisted for an adult to shame girls for being "like girls," and it still boggles my mind that she herself was female. It has always been easy for me to call out sexism from boys and men, but sometimes women can be just as damaging.
#71022 Anonymous 2015-04-16 23:52
My co-worker and I both assumed the duties of multiple employees after losing staff. We found out today that human resources "forgot" we were both entitled to a pay bump for every position we absorbed. We cannot have the raise now because we did not receive it at the time of the transfer. It must be a coincidence we're both women.
#71021 Jayne Ruckman 2015-04-16 23:42
I work in a local video game store. I was hired because I have been playing games since I was 5, and know my way around multiple gaming systems, and the games that come with them. I have proved this fact numerous times. Yet, sometimes when I am working with one of my male co-workers, customers go straight to them and completely ignore what I have to say. They feel as though because I have ovaries that I haven't a clue how to turn a PlayStation on. I have even been on the receiving end of several dirty looks as well being the butt of insensitive jokes.
#71020 Angela 2015-04-16 23:30
Sexism is prevalent everywhere. I am like the thousands of women and girls on this site, been subjected daily for years to men yelling out things like "you're beautiful" "you're an angel" "cheer up". I am now 40 and am thankful that I am no longer a target, but it really makes me worried that teenage girls (children) are subjected to this. I actually think sexism is getting worse, not better.
#71019 Emma 2015-04-16 23:30
Today, in school, I was speaking with a teacher. This teacher knows that I am an open feminist and that I value gender equality very highly, I was describing the feminist symbols on the front cover of my notebook, one of them was a cat on a phone with the caption "This is okay, catcalling isn't." The teacher, who was male, said "Since when is catcalling such a big deal, I mean it's not like guys have anything of value to say when they catcall. Why do girls take it so seriously?" I couldn't believe he had said something like that. Ugh.

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